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Four Ways You Can Help Stop Violence Against Women

“The people who could do most to improve the situation of so many women and children are in fact men. It’s in our hands to stop violence against women.”

- Patrick Stewart

 

At the core of our brand, we strongly believe that men have the power to stand up against and stop violence. We’ve met so many good men out there who share the same conviction as Irrelevant Society – that violence against women is wrong. But what does standing up against violence look like? Here are some practical tips to give you a starting point.

 

#1 Start at home

The most basic form of standing up for women - and the one with the longest impact - is prevention. Teach your sons, nephews, brothers or neighbour’s kids to respect our women – not just through their actions, but also through their words. Unhelpful sayings like: “You throw like a girl” or “don’t cry like a girl” must stop. This kind of talk sends a message to our young men, as well as women, that being a girl is a bad thing.

 

#2 Say Something

Moving your conviction from the home to your community, don’t stay silent. When you hear a mate, or any guy, make a distasteful joke about women, say something. Not saying anything means you become complicit and enable this behavior, and could lead to the assumption that you agree with his joke. White Ribbon has lots of helpful tips on how to speak out, check them out here

 

#3 Talk about it

Be brave and talk about it with your mates. Starting a conversation about violence against women is not easy and can be awkward, but it’s a powerful act of standing up. The branding of our clothing provides a great conversation starter. And of course, educating yourself about the facts of violence against women is a good starting point for informed conversations.

 

#4 Intervene

If you witness violence, the first thing to remember is to always keep yourself, and then others, safe. Focus on what you can do, not what you can’t. Stand close by but within a safe distance to make sure that the violent person knows they are being watch, ask for help and call 000 if there is an emergency.

 

Of course there are so many things that we can do to stand up, however recognizing the issue is the first step towards change.

 

In line with the White Ribbon day, from October-November Irrelevant Society will donate 20% of its profits to White Ribbon Australia. Find out more about White Ribbon Australia here.

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Why Do We Support A Men's Behaviour Change Program

 

For men’s behaviour change programs to work, the attitude of our society must also change.

 

Men’s behaviour change programs are a crucial part to end violence against women. As Michael Brandenburg from No To Violence says, taking responsibility for their abusive behaviour is an important first step for men towards changes, ”No more excuses, no more blaming ”. By helping men to understand and change their behaviour, we're helping create a safer space for the women and children affected by their actions.

 

However, for men’s behaviour change programs to work, the attitude of our society must also change. As a community, let's take a good look at ourselves, how we treat women and what messages we give to our young men. Violence against women is not just a women’s issue. It's a societal issue. It impacts all of us and we're all responsible.

 

This month, Irrelevant Society will give 20% of the profits to Communicare’s Breathing Space Program – a residential Family and Domestic Violence men's behaviour change program which provides an alternative to removing women and children from their family home while helping men address their issues. The average wait list to access a program like this is 6 months.

 

Find out more about the Breathing Space Program here and check our latest collections to wear your conviction with pride and support this important cause.

 

If you or someone you know is impacted by sexual assault, domestic or family violence, call 1800 Respect – 1800 737 732

Introducing this months’ charity – FVPLS

R.S. Dixon

 

Every two months the Irrelevant Society donates 20% of profits to a different organisation working to end domestic violence. This June and July, all your purchases support Aboriginal Family Violence Prevention Legal Services Victoria (FVPLS).

If you saw the Four Corners episode in May about the death of Lynette, a young Aboriginal woman and mother of seven who bled to death on a lonely beach after horrific sexual abuse, you’d know that Indigenous women are far more likely to suffer violence and abuse. In fact Aboriginal Family Violence Prevention Legal Services (FVPLS) statics show that Aboriginal women are 34 times more likely to be hospitalised and 10 times more likely to be killed than other women because of family violence.

Yes, you read right – 34 times more likely to be hospitalised and 10 times more likely to be killed.

FVPLS

It’s important to keep in mind that while the victims may be Indigenous, the perpetrators of such violence come from a range of cultural backgrounds. In Lynette’s case, her boyfriend was white, which sadly, may have something to do with why justice is still yet to be found five years on.

It’s stories like these which prove the need for specific prevention support and legal services for Indigenous women and children affected by family violence. Enter FVPLS. Established in 2002 in Victoria, FVPLS is an Aboriginal community controlled organisation which provides assistance to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander victims/survivors of family violence and sexual assault and works directly with families and communities affected by violence.

Through a range of free legal advice and services, as well as education and advocacy programs, FVPLS works to provide support to survivors, enable justice, and ultimately prevent domestic violence against Aboriginal and TSI women.

You can find out more about FVPLS here and don’t forget to check our new winter jumpers and other collections to add to your wardrobe while supporting this fantastic organisation.